HOW TO AVOID GETTING ANGRY 😡
Anger is a strong feeling of Vexation, Crossness, or hostility and a negative Emotion state that isRegularly associated with hostile thoughts, physiological agitation and maladaptive behaviors. It generally develops in feedback to the undesirable actions of some other person who is recognized to be disrespectful, degrading, threatening or fail to care for.
1. SELF - MONITORING.
Notice early warning ⚠️ sign of anger to nip it in the bud before it escalates. Example, you might notice that your voice begins to change, or that your frown or your muscles tense, when you’re beginning to grow angry, or you may think of someone’s actions as unjust or in violation of a personal rule.(“how dare she say that to me !”)
2. COGNITIVE DISTANCING.
Remind yourself that the events themselves don’t make you angry, but rather your judgment about them cause the passion. (“I notice that I am telling myself How dare she say that,and it’s that way of looking at things that’s causing me to feel angry.”)
Wait until your feelings of anger have naturally abated before your decide got to respond to the situation. Take a breath walk away, and come back to it a few hours later. If you still feel like you need to do something then calmly decide upon the best response; otherwise, just let it go and forget about it.
4. MODELING VIRTUE.
Ask yourself what a wise person such as Socrates or Zeno world do. What virtues might help you to reaping wisely? In the case it might be easier to think if a role model you’re more familiar with, like Marcus Aurelius or someone you’ve encountered in your own life (“A wise person would try to empathize, put themselves in her shoes, and then exercise patience when they’re responding …)
5. FUNCTIONAL ANALYSIS.
Picture the consequences of following anger virtue following reason and exercising virtues such as moderation. (“If I let my anger guide me then I’ll probably just yell at her and get into another argument, and things will get a lot worse over times until we’re not speaking anymore. If I wait u til I’ve calmed down and then try to listen patiently, though, it’s might be difficult at first but it will probably start To work better with practice, and once she’s calmed down maybe she’ll begin listening on my perspective.”)
CONCLUSION _if you want to teach someone som manners showing your dominance of mind will not solve anything and that person won't necessarily respect you in a proper way. Instead of looking for further conflict, looking for a mutual beneficial solution leads to better results.